As I write this, I am quote/unquote coaching myself. Yes, getting up is hard every day especially when no one tells you what time you have to arrive at work. Owning your own business allows for many freedoms, like sleeping in. I am going to assume you are a mother like me, and that life hasn’t always been easy. I am writing on this topic because I needed to hear it so there must be others out there like me. And if you are like me, you spend a good bit of your time surfing the web and Instagram for inspirational quotes to motive you throughout the day. When the truth of the matter is, they don’t work. No picture of magical words will get you up out of the chair or out of the bed and be productive. So if that doesn’t work, what does?
Anger. Anger is the strongest emotion we have. You can find plenty of quotes about anger as motivation, trust me I have them saved on my Pinterest boards. Happiness, sadness, fear, and any other emotion you try to use may work but not as well as Anger does. There is a reason why women become fitness nuts after a divorce, that reason is Anger. On a side note, I am personal trainer and twice divorced. Ha!
One of the most interesting people I’ve ever met, I will probably never see again and I didn’t even catch her name. But that’s not what is important. Two years ago, after learning I had been cheated on for the “I’ve lost count” number, I decided I would run a 100k (roughly 62 miles) trail race. Running is therapy and pushing beyond my limits helps ease whatever pain I am going through. Anyways, back to the story, I was running along the course and two ladies came up on me. Ultra marathon runners are very different from your “normal” runner, you get into a slow steady pace that can last for 10-12 hours. So as I was running with these two ladies, one of them started telling her story. The other lady was just there for moral support, her best friend, knowing her purpose, of course. The talkative one, began telling me her story. How she and her husband had been married over 15 years with three children, all in either high school or middle school, involved in sports,etc. Her husband comes home one day, and says he is leaving, wants a divorce, just like that. The kind of stuff you hear about but never talk to anyone that has actually lived through it, and trust me I could tell she was living through it. With every word that came from her mouth came anger, power, and strength to take another step. Which is exactly what she was doing at that moment. Running was the only thing that kept her alive as she said. I ran alongside her for as long as I could just listening to the strength this woman possessed. I had always thought I had it bad, my life was tough, and it had been, but this lady was thriving. I can’t tell you what she does for a living or anything else other than the drive I saw in her through her body movement. Her friend ran with us showed no emotion, like she had heard this story a hundred times but never left her friend’s side. All the while I am total shock. I had never met another female that I thought was stronger than me, until that December morning.
Like I said, I may never cross paths with her again but she will remain in my memory and thoughts forever. And when times get tough, I want to be that powerful driven voice that someone else needs.I’ve been a personal trainer for over 10 years now, and I’ve never been more inspired than when I ran alongside that lady. I cannot think of a better definition of a personal trainer.